““By relinquishing our need and desire to control, explain, and believe the way that our minds talk to us about what was and what is, we find a capacity to open to a new state of consciousness.””
Moving beyond a single theory approach, Dr. Haessig works to help couples see the attachment style they are employing (usually insecure or avoidant) and move them toward a securely-attached couple, where the psychology is based on “US.” The individualistic mindset often puts couples at risk for seeing the other as “enemy.” By getting to know how to co-regulate each other’s nervous system, couples can learn to create safety and security. Having a vision and creating guardrails for the couple unit helps each feel like they exist within an empowered relationship founded in fairness and shared power.
By undoing bad habits that injure each other in relationship, couples work focuses on quick repair—constantly, so nothing negative gets stored in long-term memory. “Normal marital hatred” becomes a thing of the past. Or, Dr. Haessig will help you break up and co-parent peacefully. What you want is up to you!
In addition to traditional theories and methods of psychology and health, Beth draws from the work of Peter Ralston, Core Energetics, John Wellwood, and Adyashanti.
LINKS
PACT: Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy: www.pactinstitute.com
Exceptional Marriage: www.exceptionalmarriage.com
David Deida work: www.deida.info